TRANSITIONING & the courage to heal 🌀
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Themes: giving ourselves the time and space to heal and working towards letting go of the judgement we hold when we are healing and going through transitions in our lives.
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I believe that the journey of self awareness has to come with kindness. It has to come with compassion for ourselves for the transition. We can’t change our deeeeeep rooted thoughts and behaviour patterns overnight. It takes timmmme.
We might see those coping mechanisms, defensive responses or “unhealthy”behaviours popping back up in our lives. Let’s try and show love and kindness towards ourselves for seeing it and calling it out. We can’t shame ourselves for having the awareness, for recognising our pain, triggers or responses. We have to make space for the transition. We need to trust the process. Trust that eventually we will let go of the “unhealthy” behaviour or coping response.
We will let go when we are ready.
I love the metaphor “the war is over, put your weapons down”. We can let go of behaviours and coping mechanisms when we don’t need them anymore…
Sometimes we develop survival mechanisms to cope with our environment, especially in childhood. In adulthood we can continue engaging with these behaviour like we are still living in our previous environment/ relationship dynamic. That’s sometimes why we see patterns in our adulthood from our childhood.
The most important thing I feel right now, from the work I’m doing with clients and the healing work I’m doing myself is that we can’t shame our selves for us protecting ourselves. We can’t shame ourselves for our anxiety or potentially negative thought patterns or behaviour. We need to acknowledge that it served us in the past. We need to say thank you and with LOVE let go. Let go, let go.
But in the transitioning period, as we begin to let go, I believe we need to show ourselves love and compassion. Not blame and judgment.
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